Targeting Target, Part 2
Continued from Part 1
By this time you might be wondering…is there a point?
Short answer: yes.
Ohhhhh, you want details. Right, then. Here we go.
I don’t know how much ruckus (commotion, brouhaha, distraction, hullabaloo) the Target Bathroom Decision has raised in your part of the world. We’ve experienced some mild ruckusing in our town, but nothing to write home about. Or in my case, nothing to write a blog post about.
As I mentioned in my previous post, I think EVERYONE should receive respect.
Here’s the thing.
I have no problem making people comfortable in the bathroom, whether straight, gay, trans, bi or whatever other prefix you’d like to attach.
Give us a second. I have a few die-hard fundamentalist friends who need time to pick their jaws up off the floor.
Annnnnd we’re back.
Now, I absolutely DO have a problem with everyone going to the bathroom together, because I think it opens a whole other can of spaghetti0-ohs. Several cans, actually.
- Can 1: Especially if it’s true that the new policy applies to changing rooms, I don’t want some hormonic teen boy in the stall next to my daughter. My kids have been through and seen enough. Why add the possibility of more trauma? I absolutely believe that teens (yes, also girls) will take advantage of the situation. Imagine yourself or your kid brother in the 13-17 year old range and tell me I’m wrong.
- Can 2: There ARE bad adults in the world. They take advantage of whatever situation is available. Here’s one more avenue for pedophiles to access children.
- Can 3: I prefer not to be raped. Again, perpetrators take advantage of situations. Yes, it’s unlikely, but hey, Ted Bundy picked up gals in the parking lot. I bet he’d have had serious luck in a bathroom.
Here’s a can I do NOT think it will open: people with sexual preferences other than my own perpetrating some kind of abuse on my children.
I’ll be honest: if I want my kids in a safe environment where they are unlikely to ever experience abuse or discrimination of any kind, it’s around my friends who are gay and “other.” I have NEVER heard any of these friends say anything negative about people based on their sexual orientation, race, or, quite simply, anything else.
I spent a long weekend photographing a conference that was “everything-friendly.” It was one of the nicest weekends I’ve ever had. People were kind, everyone was smiling and no one was a jerk to me because I like guys. (Well, for the record, just ONE guy. That would be Hubby.) Other than with my family, it was the most accepted and loved I’ve felt in a while.
When we’re around some of our “Christian” and “country” friends, I do worry about what the kids will hear (which is why we don’t hang around some of them). Our kids don’t need to learn words like “white trash” and “homophobe” and hear derogatory slurs toward people of other ethnicities. I want my kids to grow up seeing everyone as a PERSON, not a color.
Sure, there’s a possibility that an abuser could be in the mix (I mean, heck, PASTORS have been caught perpetrating, too, so obviously no people-group is immune). However, my son is much more likely to encounter a pedophile in the all-guys’ bathroom at a restaurant (which is why we don’t sent the kids in alone).
I had planned to ignore the whole situation, but then I saw this article, which is why I started writing the post. I’ll be honest; it made me pretty angry. I mean, seriously, why feed a fire?
Nothing makes me madder than discrimination and dissension in the name of God. Pretty sure HE doesn’t like it, either.
But then tonight I saw this article, which claims those first allegations are false. Maybe someone just took a comment out of context and the first article was incorrect. I truly hope that’s the case.
Once again, the American public is getting distracted by lies and allegations (on both sides of the argument, I’m sure).
Ever notice that things like this happen right around election time? Hmmmm…. (Oh, sorry, there goes my inner conspiracy theorist again. DOWN, girl!)
Target is not, nor have they ever claimed to be, a Christian organization. They have no responsibility to make choices based on a value system they don’t embrace. And I don’t think they’re actively attempting to make anyone upset. They’re just trying to offend as few people as possible so they can make a buck. Or $72 million bucks, as reflected in sales for 2014 in the annual report.
So, here’s what I think:
It is every parent’s right—and duty—to protect the innocence of their child.
Every individual has the right to do bathroom business in peace, without fear.
Here’s my solution:
Target needs a third bathroom.
People need to be nicer to each other.
(And that was my opinion before reading either of the above articles.)
I don’t care if it’s a family bathroom or a gender-neutral bathroom.
- A family bathroom will give concerned parents a way to protect their kids.
- A gender-neutral bathroom gives everyone on all sides the option to choose a safe restroom.
Either option provides emotional and physical safety for customers.
And I guarantee you, building a third bathroom will cost less than lawsuits by parents or rape victims.
Let’s have a little respect for EVERYONE.
If you don’t like the store’s decisions, you don’t have to shop there.
But if you call yourself a Christian, don’t be a jerk. It makes Jesus look bad.
Posted on May 6, 2016, in Adoption, parenting and tagged allegations, bathrooms, build a third bathroom, don't discriminate in the name of God, family bathroom, family friendly, gender neutral, Jesus isn't a jerk, lies, respect everyone, sending people into bathrooms, Target. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.