When I’m Not With You…


Sometimes I wonder what you do when we’re not together. Not always, because my life is insane and I don’t have time to think about anything except my immediate situation. But sometimes.

You might wonder about me. On the other hand, perhaps you are also too caught up in craziness to consider anything other than your next meeting, or whether you have spinach between your teeth.

“How did she know that?” you muse. Mostly because I am, this moment, trying to determine whether have broccoli in my teeth. We’re all much too caught up in ourselves to wonder, to truly consider others.

I explain to our kids all the time: most people are so worried about what YOU will think of them, they don’t even think about you. Our daughter thinks everyone will assume she’s a boy, thanks to her pixie haircut. I disagree. “You’re really pretty. There’s no way they’ll think you’re a boy. Besides, you wear earrings.”

“But some boys wear earrings!” she wails.

“Yes,” I say, “but most boys are not getting boobs.” She is not amused.

Perhaps I’m wrong. You might spend hours wondering, “Does Casey actually have a life?”

If so, you’re either a stalker or wayyyy too obsessed with people you’ve never met. I’ve already had one stalker, thanks (remind me to tell you later; my story highlights all the reasons you should educate your children about life online).

Side note: If you find yourself obsessing over any blogger, it’s time for a hobby that includes people you can touch. And no, I don’t mean tracking one down.

Per the Writing 101 Day 11 assignment, I will now regale you with Tales from the Crypt. Wait, no, that’s something else. Tales of What I Do Without You.

Actual Post

Things I do for fun when I’m not with you: 

  1. Read. Or rather, listen. Since the kids came to our house, I can count on one hand the number of books I’ve actually read with my own eyes, touching paper, smelling that…bookish…scent all paperbacks and most hardbacks carry. gave me my life back. Well, my fantasy. Thanks to that fabulous website, I’ve read over 300 books in the last four years. Mythology, biograpy, dystopia, utopia, fantasy, reality, fiction and non. I’m currently listening to The Martian. Again. Andy Wier writes with the humor of John Scalzi and the believability (which is, per spell check, not a word) of a space mission technical handbook. LOVE.
  2. Cook. For the first three years transitioning the kids to our home, “Survive” would have been number two on the list, but thankfully we’ve morphed to a new phase. I hope it sticks, because I can finally do some of the things I love. Like read and cook. I’m not a fabulous gourmet chef, but I swipe recipes from my incredible aunt, who is. She’s also great at giving directions in writing, so my attempts at cooking her recipes almost always come out right. Visiting her is like having a front row seat at a cooking show. One of these days I will convince her to start a blog and share her talent with the world, but for now, she’s all mine.
  3. Write. (You’re shocked, right?) Interesting—well, interesting to me—thoughts pop into my brain all the time. If only science would catch up with my needs; a download port in the side of my head would be awesome. Even a mini-SD slot might work. Half the time I can’t find a pen in time to capture these world-changing ideas (hence, I’ve not yet changed the world). The other half, I’m desperate to remember the amazing thought that just flitted through…and escaped in entirety. I’m not much for blogvertisement, but there is FINALLY a partial solution. Cheri mentioned Simplenote in one of her posts, and I’ve since been using it to jot down, well, pretty much everything. The feature I love is search. I have this stack of papers in my room, filled with random thoughts. I considered typing them out but had no way to categorize them (as I said, random thoughts). With Simplenote, you can search any word once you’ve written a piece. Perfect.
  4. Train a German Shepherd. I also attempt to train the children. The pup is amazing. He’s quick to learn and loves to obey. The children, not so much. Maybe I need to try the click-and-kibble strategy on the kids.
  5. Restoration. Recent projects include hand-sanding and staining a large piece of furniture, a rocking chair and wooden pieces for the interior of a vehicle Hubby is painting and fixing. Oh, and I worked on the latches to the vehicle doors. I think Hubby lets me help to give me a feeling of purpose, a creative outlet and a sense of fulfillment. Also, I have smaller hands which fit inside the door access holes.
  6. Construction. Our home has had several leaks thanks to shoddy work on the part of the previous owner, and we fix most of the problems ourselves. Unlike the PO, Hubby and I have a bit of talent. (I’m not bitter or anything.) Taping and plastering sheet rock is the perfect match for my OCD. Most of the time—especially if you look at the state of the kitchen—my OCD is not evident. At all. This is because I’ve given up perfection in any area of the home the kids touch. Plastering a wall or ceiling, though, my obsession is clear. I’ve realized I enjoy it because it’s the one place in life in which I can truly control the outcome. I also enjoyed demolishing a wall in our home. Great stress relief. Not for Hubby, who wasn’t aware I was demolishing it that particular day.
  7. Sleep. I should probably do this more.

So, there it is, folks. My life in a nutshell. Thrilling, I know.

I dished. Your turn. What do you do when you’re not reading my blog?

And why are you doing that instead of reading my blog? Seriously.

I’ll be back in a minute to read your comments. I have to get the broccoli out of my teeth.







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Posted on September 24, 2015, in Blogging101, Reading, writing, Writing is fun, Writing101 and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 14 Comments.

  1. A great insight into your life – I particularly like the plastering and how much you love it! That’s so great 🙂

    I’m afraid I’m gonna be a bit repetitive – no great revelations from me! I read alot, love to cook too- though, mostly like to eat my husband’s cooking, whose taken to creating currys from scratch – which are amazing!

    Love spending time in my garden, trying to develop a wildlife haven in an urban environment.

    I write a lot – I’ve just finished another rewrite of my novel, I have a guest blogging job at the moment, which is great and am trying to find a way to develop more money earning writing jobs.

    And apart from the odd ‘proper’ work day and fielding my son’s school / homework / social life, that’s it.

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    • How do you make curry from scratch? (I only recently found out that “curry” is not actually a spice grown, but a blend of spices…mind blown…) I absolutely love curry.
      Good for you on both the novel and the guest blogging! That’s super. Making money writing…THAT, my friend, would be a dream come true. 🙂
      Hey, do they want any more bloggers? I’m for sale. Wait. That came out wrong. Although there are probably days Hubby would sell me away for the right price… 😉


      • Well, husband does follow recipes – he’s not that much of a curry genius! – but yes, a lot of mixing spices like turmeric, coriander, tamarind, cassia, cumin … it’s a complicated process as far as I can see and can take him two hours or so to complete. Marvellous to eat, though, so I’m not complaining!
        Yes, the Holy Grail is making cash from scribbling, isn’t it? A full time wage seems out of reach, but maybe a part time one … You never know.
        Here’s the magazine I’m about to blog for. I sent a pitch as per their specs and they replied within a few weeks. They’ve been lovely – I highly recommend you give it a go. You have a lot to say – that’s meant in a good way!

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        • Wow, thank you! I will definitely do this. If I find any others that look promising, I’ll let you know. I guess that’s the key—to always be on the lookout. I’ll have to do a better job of looking.
          Are you doing NaNoWriMo? This year, I’ve decided to follow Gilbert’s advice in Anne of Green Gables to “write what you know.” I’m excited about trying to write our whole story in a month.
          If you decide to do it and want to be in a group together, let me know!
          Also, tell your hubby that if I ever get across the water, I will come begging for curry! 🙂

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          • You would be most welcome, anytime!
            As for searching out writing/ blogging possibilities. I find the same problem with short story magazines – there’s almost too many options and I never know which is the best- so sometimes end up not going for anything!
            Hadn’t thought of doing NaNoWriMo. It always sounds like a rather terrifying (if wonderful) project. I was about to use the excuse that I don’t have a novel idea ready to write, but that’s total tosh as I have at least a couple I could get ready and keep moaning about not having the time to write them up. It’s an interesting thought. I’ll think about it some more and let you know.
            Well done you for giving it a go – is it your first time? It’s a big ask, to write the history of the family in a month, but you could blog about the process too, killing two birds with one stone!
            Very best of luck with the month – it’ll be an amazing experience, I’m sure 🙂


          • P.S. Do let me know how you get on with Mslexia and best of luck with that too.


  2. As always you make me smile! I READ 🙂 and yes Write too! Chaueffer my girls around to places they so NEED to go! Spend time with friends and family and all the mundane tasks of keeping a house organized and clean. I so NEED a maid! I would have more time to read your blog 🙂

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    • I agree. I think we should all be granted maids. I’m not sure where they’ll come from or who will pay, but…if you’re a blogger, you deserve a maid. We could read and write so much more! 🙂

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  3. I blog about all the little things I do, so there isn’t much mystery there. But in addition to that, I spend a lot of energy trying to keep up with family & friends, so that means entire evenings on FaceTime and many emails, Facebook conversations. The rest is pretty darned mundane.

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    • Ah, but you’re alive, so…not mundane at all. 🙂 That’s pretty cool you keep in touch with FT. I always tell myself I should do more of that, but then…I don’t. Thank you for sharing your life with us! 🙂


  4. Aaah I do pretty much the same things as you do barring construction since I’m neither inclined to house repair nor does my house need it. I could add Yoga, walks , watching movies catching up with friends and sorting out the ideas swarming in my head …..

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