Adoption = Letters to My Children, Part 1
Sidewalk Prophets performs a song I love called “The Words I Would Say.”
Three in the morning, and I’m still awake
So I picked up a pen and a page
And I started writing just what I’d say
If we were face to face
I’d tell you just what you mean to me
Tell you these simple truths…
When we were in the pre-adoption stage (looking for our children, but not finding them), I constantly wrote letters to my children in my head, like this one:
I expect you’re probably already out in the world somewhere. How I wish, wish, wish I could send you a message. At this very moment, you might be experiencing neglect, abuse, or love. Likely, your situation is not comfortable or pleasant. The circumstances that will bring you to us may seem more than you can bear, but I know you will make it. You’re a survivor; please hang onto that truth. I have a feeling there will be more than one of you; hopefully you are together and can lean on each other’s strength. There will be days when you just want to give up, but please don’t. Daddy and I are right here, waiting for you, imagining you.
When you see me for the first time, you probably won’t know that I’ll be your Mama, but I will love you immediately, with everything I have. I can’t wait to hold your little face in my hands, kiss your cute little nose and promise that I will never stop loving you. I will keep that promise, no matter what.
We’re going to have so much fun playing and learning; we’ll go to the park, the Science Museum, the Children’s Museum, the Aquarium, the river, the mountains, the desert, the ocean, the moon! Okay, you’re right…we’ll just have to imagine going to the moon. We’ll play games, go camping, stay up late, eat ice cream for dinner (at least once in a while), make cookies, make brownies (mmmmm, brownies)…you get the idea. We’re going to have FUN!
I know that right now, it’s very likely that someone is hurting you or neglecting you. That absolutely kills me, to know tragedy is happening and I can’t do anything to stop it. I promise you, with all my heart, that we will do everything in our power to help you recover.
I love you, I love you, I love you,
Be strong in the Lord
And never give up hope
You’re gonna do great things
I already know
God’s got His hand on You
So don’t live life in fear
Forgive and forget
But don’t forget why you’re here
Take your time and pray
These are the words I would say
Posted on September 17, 2014, in Adoption and tagged adopt, adopted, adopting, adoption, blogging101, child, family, foster, parent, parenting, Sidewalk Prophets, The Words I Would Say, writing101. Bookmark the permalink. 7 Comments.