Adoption= Frustration

I feel like there’s more to this story. Some underlying reason. Underlying. Under LYING. Our girl lies to get out of trouble, which seems normal. She is also deceitful for no apparent reason. This is just weird.

The worst part is, she’s really, REALLY bad at it.

Occasionally, I want to ask, “Is that the best story you can concoct?”  But…I have a nagging feeling this would be bad parenting.  “Seriously, darling, you must practice your fabrication of falsehoods.”

Sometimes I truly think she wants to be caught. Tonight, I asked the boy to call her (to do a chore together). She was playing (and ignoring). He did the chore alone.

A few minutes passed. I popped my head out the back door, saw her near the garage and asked her to bring me the screen Hubby just fixed. As she walked over, she announced,

“I never heard him calling me.”

Me (momentarily forgetful): “What?”

She: “I never heard my brother calling me a few minutes ago.”

Me: “I didn’t say anything about your brother.”

She: “I know. But I didn’t hear him calling.”

Me: “How would you know he was calling you if you didn’t hear him?”

She (deer-in-headlights): blink, blink

I could swear she’s purposely fibbing poorly. She’s highly intelligent, and since lying has serious consequences around here, I can’t figure out her motivation.

Foster/Adoptive parents: is this something you’ve seen?

Foster/Adoptive kids (former and current): is this something you’ve ever done also? If so, can you explain why?



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Posted on August 31, 2014, in Adoption, Parent and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Hey! I apologize for my late reply on your post. School has been insane!

    Anyways, I honestly think that’s normal for young girls. How old is your daughter? When I was in my early teens, I seemed to act the same way. It’s a part of growing up I think and that’s how girls are sometimes. I have no idea why! I mean, I’m not saying I lied about stuff all the time but especially with chores I would be lazy and need more motivation to realize what had to be done.

    I don’t know how your daughter feels, but for me personally, when I acted a certain way it had nothing to do with the fact that I am adopted.

    I would say you should ask her if it’s because she’s adopted but I used to hate when my parents asked me that. Now, I can openly talk about it.

    And as I grew older, my behaviour changed.

    Hope this helped a bit! I’m always willing to share my thoughts with you!

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